Women and confidence

It is such a sad situation to even discuss this. Women and confidence. Women and confidence are supposedly a unit. They should be more than a pair but one entity. They supposedly go hand in hand. 

Unfortunately and most sadly so, they are not. They are two different items that go different directions. Women seemingly do not realise that confidence belongs to them. They allow it to flee in its own direction.

Women were historically not allowed to have confidence. It was a tough endevour to have them recognised as a people even biblically so. They were commodities to be purchased and used as desired with no concern over what they actually needed if ever realised. They were not considered as a people who mattered.

To this day they have been paid dowry for in marriages. This is an exchange transaction. This without their consultation or consent  on what they want or what they think. A young woman belongs to their family and it is up to their family to finally decide on what to do with her. This is a global phenomena. Yes not every country might practice this but it is world renown.

Women are slowly trying to regain themselves but this is a new thing that is unbeknown to them. It will take and still needs bigger strides to achieve and finally win the struggle. Yes women have been to Geneva to talk and discuss about their roles in their families, communities and the economy at large.

Women now serve in leadership roles.

We are still to see the real emancipation of the mind of the woman herself. Many  women still have not known what being an independent woman entails.

They have served under man for much too long. They have been subjects to men. They have been tails and not heads for quite very long time.

It is still puzzling and amazing to see a woman who has successffully asserted herself in life. Being independent, yes, owning her life on every sphere and facet.

A woman can have everything and still be subject to a man as in a relationship to maintain appearances. 

Yes marriage as tasteless as it sounds is still an achievement to women. Women still do need  men to survive. Yes, women do need men to make children and maintain families. Women do need men as much as men need women.

This need has to be played in a way that does not serve a blind purpose. 

It will serve a blind purpose when women begin to compete for a men. When women play games against each other for the attention of a man. When women believe that they need to pull each other down to feel good or better about themselves. This is the most sad part about the confidence of a woman. 

The tainted confidence. This seems to a global challenge for women.

It will take a very long time for women to finally realise that they do not need to do anything to feel good, to be confident. By virtue of being a woman,they should be confident. By virtue of being, of existence. 

A woman needs to wake up and feel comfortable in her own skin.

In whatever look they want to present without fear of judgement and any fear of opinion. 

Their own opinion should be all that matters.

Another being's opinion should be just that, another being's opinion and nothing more.

That would be the true confidence of a woman. 

Women are naturally good human beings. This without the fear and favour that they actually do not need, let alone deserve.

A woman's worth should be in what she presents and not what is presented.

Then the day women realise that will be the day they gain their confidence, not regain. You only regain something that you previously possessed.

Women have not yet possessed their own self confidence.